Should i get closure from an ex

So what are you to do if someone ghosts you? A good starting point is therefore to take responsibility for your own actions and interpret those of others as best you can. You also have to accept that you may never have the perfect answer. But you can nevertheless give yourself some time to be sad, try to figure out what happened and finally learn and move on.

Research has also shown that a type of writing that allows people to examine their loss through a redemptive lens without blame and which focuses on the positives can be useful useful in helping achieve closure , whereas simply writing and searching for meaning has been found to be ineffective. Ultimately, closure is a complicated cognitive process and the key is learning to live with the ambiguity when it cannot be achieved. Sometimes, things go wrong and although it does not feel fair, and it is very hurtful, life goes on.

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About Contact Shop Privacy Policy. So this might be the first part of positive communication the couple is having. Although the initiator may have had more time to process their decision, walking away is still painful. Ambrosius believes kindness and compassion, on both sides, is important here. You might feel guilty or angry giving them those home truths, so it could be quite difficult.

Try and think of your side of the relationship as well and the things you could have done better. Or meet with them too much, or call them over and over again. That can take time, and you have to allow yourself the time to piece together that narrative I was talking about; to put the puzzle back together. Do you think most people can admit their fears? Of course we all would like our partner to care enough to tell us the truth no matter how much it hurts. Realize that we all have insecurities, and not all of us can understand how they impact us.

For whatever reason, your ex has chosen to cease all communication with you. Change is inevitable. Change is good.

If it was meant to be, it would have been, and if it is meant to be, it will be. Sometimes the lack of closure is the very lesson that you needed to learn. Maybe you needed to learn to validate yourself and accept yourself. Consider seeing this person as a gift sent to you. They were brought to you as a reflection of yourself.

Thank them for being a part of your journey and send them on their way in your mind. Lastly, if you are waiting for your ex to give you closure, it might be time to dig deep inside and give it to yourself. Carrie L. Burns is a blogger on a mission of self-discovery. As a sexual abuse survivor that struggled for years with depression anxiety, low self-esteem, lack of self-love, and relationship issues, she found her purpose through writing and sharing her story with others.

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It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. Click here to read more. Why They Avoid You If you have a habit of picking emotionally challenged partners me—raising hand , who would rather stare at Facebook or play video games than have an actual conversation, then the chances of getting closure are quite slim.

Closure is something everyone would like. We would like validation and understanding. It has happened at least twice.